Saturday, March 29, 2014

Our Warmed-Up, Leftover Lives

Let me ask you a question I’ve been asking myself lately.

What do you wake up in the morning for?

No, seriously, let’s start here.

What keeps you waking up in the morning, every morning? There’s got to be something. If there wasn’t, then you wouldn’t keep doing it. Right?

Now, I’m not trying to make light of life. I recognize it’s a gift. It comes straight from God down to us. He controls our coming and going. According to Psalm, He’s acquainted with even our rising and down-sitting.

When you get right down to it, there’s something that propels all of us to doing more than just mere breathing. There’s something inside of all of us that calls us, beckons us, really, to truly live.

If you are anything like me, there are things in your life that make you feel more alive. Something inside of you feels more full, vibrant, and inspired when you do those things. (For me, those things are writing, reading, thinking/dreaming how the world can be a better place and what I can do with “my” tiny corner of it, singing-in-the-shower-at-the-top-of-my-dear-little-lungs, sending hand-written cards in the mail, creating and crafting things, conversing one-on-one about the deeper issues of life, reuniting with dear friends, watching Father of the Bride for the 50th time in a year, etc.)

Conversely true is this: there are things in your life that make you feel drained, exhausted, worn-out, and (to get a little dramatic about it) sometimes make you feel near-dead. (I’m not going to give you my list for this one because it’d be sorely anti-climatic and would probably open up the door to truckloads of judgement…haha.)

Regardless of how our lists compare or contrast with one another, we all have lists.

Things that make us feel near-dead.

And things that make us feel most alive.

And guess what? God is the creator of both. He’s the Designer, the Overseer, the Controller, the only One Who sovereignly governs it all. Everything, every-little-thing, in our lives has purpose because we have a God of purpose that perpetuates purpose in all things. Nothing is accidental. Nothing is wasted. All is redeemable. All is worth something. All things have purpose.

With those thoughts in mind, I have another question for you. (Again, one I’ve been asking myself lately.)

At the end of each day, reflect back and ask yourself what takes all your time and energy away?

Are they the things that make you feel most alive?

Or are they the things that make you feel near-dead?

The reason I’m asking you these things, and the reason I’m asking myself these things is this:
My roommate and I recently had an interesting situation come up in the apartment.
Nothing elaborate, just basically, she went to microwave something, and ended up with a wasted meal and the entire house smelling like a legit cigar factory. (No joke. This was a job that Febreeze couldn’t even handle. We had to get the open-the-glass-door-but-not-the-screen-door combo involved in the stench-attack.)

I know that story sounds like it has nothing to do with the blog and thoughts I just poured out to you, 
but stick with me. It actually has everything to do with what I just shared.

How? Well, you see, our microwave didn’t decide just yesterday to go on the blitz and start pumping out cigar smoke (minus the cigars). No, it had problems waaaay before that. Any time, both before and after, we went to use the microwave for its designed purpose of heating up food, it would just run continuously. On its own. For seemingly no purpose at all. I even joked, at one point, that we had a microwave ghost in our midst. Although we should’ve addressed our off-task microwave performance before it got to the point of stench, food-ruin, and open windows, we didn’t. We just kinda rolled with it, chalking it up as just another quirk of apartment living. (Kinda like the guy with lead footsteps that lives above us…. another blog, another time…)

All that to say this: the silly little now-non-useful-microwave in my apartment got me to thinking. 

Would it have lasted longer, had it stayed on track? Stayed within its bounds? Stuck to the purpose it was designed to accomplish? (The phrase, “You had ONE JOB!” comes to mind… I would tell that to my microwave, too, if it’d have any return value.) In short, if it stopped running all over the place when it shouldn’t have, it would’ve done just fine with the job it was supposed to be doing all along.

Bringing it further home, would we last longer in our jobs, marriages, families, relationships, ministries, etc. if we simply stayed on our own lane in the track of life? Stay within our bounds? Stuck to the purpose we are designed to accomplish? Focused on doing the things we do well, and declining doing the things we don’t do so well?

Letting the desire to people-please take a back seat to the design and purpose and strength areas God has individually placed inside of our hearts. Actually, no, not letting them take a back seat. Letting them hitchhike a ride with whoever else is foolish enough to carry that load in their pick-up truck.

Letting others take center stage, and enjoying the behind-the-scenes all-access-pass to watching them blossom and succeed in your stead.

Having a less busy, yet more productive life overall.

I’m afraid that as I asked myself these questions lately, I quickly recognize that I sometimes have been using up my time and energy on the very things that drain the sweet God-given life out of me, instead of investing time and energy into the things that bring to life all the potential God has packed inside of me.

I’ve been operating within the realm of man-made or self-made purposes, which very quickly can lead us all directly outside the realm of the God-given, tailor-made purposes our unique lives were fashioned to accomplish. Not to mention distract us from the greater purpose of contributing to the hurting, aching, dying world of potential and wasted purpose all around us.

Instead of simply waking up each morning to another warmed-up, left-over life, try living out your purpose, out of your own unique design, structure, framework, and purpose.

Always using your strengths as a tribute to God’s glory.

And always offering your weaknesses as a tribute to His grace.

As for now, that’s all I’ve got for you. At the beginning of each day, what do you wake up every morning for? At the end of each day, what do you recognize you’ve spent and wasted all your time and energy on? Hopefully, it’s kindling inspiration and purpose in the lives of others, and not just warming up an intense amount of potent cigar smoke.


Anyone can live without a microwave. In fact, it’s probably better, in the long run, if we did.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Never Forget

The title of this blog posting, “Never Forget” in itself is hilarious to me. If you know anything about me, you know that I not only have the name of a woman born in the 1920s, but I also have the memory of one, too. Sincerely, I do. As much as I try to remember, I forget things all the time.

Case in point: At one point, I downloaded an app on my phone that is supposed to help enhance your memory through the playing of strategic games. Only I forgot to play the games for a while. And then, once my phone went through a software download (or something) and I had to put the app back on my phone, I forgot the name of the memory app. #gofigure

Now, before you go casting stones or try giving me helpful hints to increasing memory, I only tell you all of that to tell you this: I’ve been thinking about it lately, and my mind/memory is a lot like our experiences as Christians. We tend to forget TONS about what God has done for us in the past, and we especially fail to remember Who God is when certain circumstances tend to head our way, am I right?

The Bible likens us to sheep, often. Last time I checked, sheep aren’t exactly known for their memory. (I googled it, just in case you were wondering .... dolphins are the animal that is most known for its memory capabilities.)

I said all of that to say this:
“So many times in life, we allow circumstances to creep in and filter how we see God. We wonder, we doubt, we ask why. BUT instead of allowing circumstances to "redefine" how we perceive God and question what we know to be true of Him, we need to allow our relationship with God to redefine how we perceive our circumstances and what we know to be true of them.

I had a college professor once say, ‘Everything will be alright in the end ... If it's not alright, it's not yet the end.’

Someone needs to be reminded today that God is good. He is loving, and He is kind. He works all things together for our good and for His ultimate glory. There is nothing in our lives He cannot revive or redeem or recycle for His purposes. Allow your relationship with Him and your experiential knowledge of how very good He is to filter how you see your current circumstances, not the other way around.”
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There are things, situations, and circumstances in all of our lives that are indeed connected. They relate to one another, and they affect one another in ways we may not recognize on the surface. They have this sneaky little way of leaving us different when we come out of them than when we first started out or before we first experienced them.

In this past year alone, God has brought all of us into and out of a variety of circumstances. All of which have changed us, in one way or another.

Whether it’s been big or small, we’ve all had our fair share of victories and defeats this year.

For me, specifically, this year has been characterized by both victories and defeats. “Mountaintops” and “valleys,” if you will.

On the personal side of things, if you remember, in October, I got engaged. Mountaintop.

In November, Jeff my fiancĂ© deployed to Afghanistan.  Valley.

In December, I got to see him for 4 days at Christmas (mountain top) with the idea that I wouldn’t get to see him again until December 22, 2014 (valley). 

In mid-January, we were told that he was maybe getting to come home in May instead of December (mountain top). 

And since then, I’ve just been waiting it out (valley) and counting down the days until I get to see him again!!!(mountain top) 

And that’s just one small sliver of one area of my life, but you get the idea…

Looking back over my life this year alone has caused me to be grateful for all God has done and all He is going to do.

If you’re anything like me and you begin to look at the pattern of mountaintops and the valleys in your life long enough, and you will soon find that it mirrors the path of a heartbeat on a medical screen. Up, down, up down, repeat. In other words, the mountains and valleys in our lives equal LIFE. They culminate to show us our purpose in life and the God of purpose working in our lives. Though the mountain-valley pattern doesn’t always seem fun, it’s always preferable over a flat-lining.

All of that to say this, I would have completely lost it this year had I not remembered that EVERYTHING IS CONNECTED and ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD.

Again, Romans 8:28 states, “We know that all things work together for good to those that love God and to those that are called according to His purposes.”

In order to test if all things are going to work out for good in your life, ask yourself these questions (which I’m basing on the actual wording of the verse, Romans 8:28):

#1. Do you love God?

#2. Are you called according to His purposes?

If you answered “yes” to both of those questions, you can rest assured that all things in your life, the victories and defeats, the mountaintops and the valleys alike, are connected.  You are a holistic being. All things in your life affect one another. And God is working all of those things together for good in your life.

The book of Psalm also has many things to say about God working on our behalf. One of my favorites is Psalm 25:15 (ESV), which reads as follows: “My eyes are ever toward the LORD, for he will pluck my feet out of the net.” One of the reasons this is one of my favorites is because it shifts our focus on God, and does not leave us staring the problems at hand.

Whether you feel like you’re in a place of victory, a place of defeat, or just plain stuck in the middle of “the net,” remember the place you are right now is just one stop on the journey. God’s not done. He is actively in the process of doing.

I’m going to close with this 2 ½ minute song by Ellie Holcomb, which ties everything together and reminds us that no matter where we are in life, we should not forget Who God is and the love of God that He lavishly throws our way, every day, admist our circumstances and in the midst of it all. The song is actually called “Don’t Forget His Love.”